We want you to meet the prominent and up-and-coming activists who are saying "We are the Undetectables. You can't get HIV from us"Īs part the December 2019 issue of FS, GMFA has launched a new campaign as part of our The Undetectables series. The common term for this is U=U, which means undet The campaign, which features 17 prominent and up-and-coming activists, focuses on the simple message that anyone living with HIV and on effective treatment cannot sexually pass on HIV. GMFA - the gay men's health project has launched a new campaign as part of its FS Magazine (the gay and bi men's health and life magazine) to provide people living with HIV a platform to talk about being undetectable, while tackling stigma associated with HIV.
Location – Victoria Park, London (post code is E9 5EG) Whatever your reason, make sure it’s right for you. Maybe it will help you relax and maybe you will enjoy the sex more because of that. It's going to happen and it'll make you feel like shit, but remember it's not your fault and it doesn't change who you are as a person.” Paul, 28. “Be honest and upfront about it, worst case scenario is they won't want to hook up (in which case they're a douche). Why are you telling your one night stand? If you have met them on a night out, maybe have the conversation in that bar or club. Or if you don’t want to have the same conversation with everybody, then perhaps mention it on your profile. Least that way if they run for it you've got some time to find someone else!” Steve 34.Īs stated previously, if you are talking on a dating app, perhaps disclose through a conversation there. “I've always tried to be honest about being HIV-undetectable, same with a one night stand, my advice would be to get it over with quickly. Where should you tell your one night stand? There’s no real right answer here – it’s when it feels right for you. If you are talking on a dating app, perhaps disclose there or mention it on your profile. Ideally, if you are going to tell them, then talk about it before the one night stand. If a guy turns you down because of it, that's solely due to his ignorance. When should you tell your one night stand? Remember, there is no way to judge how they will react. Explain that if you are on effective treatment and have an undetectable viral load, they are in no danger of getting HIV. Tell them in the simplest terms possible. You don’t want to confuse them, particularly if their education on the subject is poor. If you decide to disclose your status to your hook-up, keep it simple and direct. I wouldn't normally offer my status unless asked or if I feel I can connect to that person more.” Ioan, 26. If you are undetectable, then do what's right by you: if you think you would feel guilty about not telling your one night stands, do it. What should you tell your one night stand?
If you have a detectable viral load, disclosing your status before sex is advisable. If you have a detectable viral load, have sex without a condom and that person becomes HIV-positive, under the law you can be charged with reckless transmission. Protected sex can mean using condoms, being on effective treatment so your viral load is undetectable, or taking PrEP. The law states that if you're having protected sex then you don’t have to tell your sexual partner that you’re living with HIV.
If they have a negative reaction, then take the time to educate them and perhaps count it as a blessing you didn’t sleep with them. If they ask, then be honest about your status. You’re under no obligation to tell a one night stand or hook-up your status. Make sure you have the right information in case he has questions i.e. If this isn't for you, trust your judgement before telling a hook-up. “I have my status on my dating app profiles so guys know straight away before we start talking. How do you disclose your status to a one night stand or hook-up? When do you bring it up and do you even need to?